Just a Note to Say…
Your marriage has crumbled before you. Dreams of growing old with your husband have died. Life is now characterized by loss and ruin—words you never thought would epitomize your story. Life has shattered, and the pieces feel impossibly broken. Can I tell you today that I get it? My story is not all wrapped up with a pretty bow. Let me explain…
For fifteen years, I was a pastor’s wife—most recently in Scotland, where we planted a church. In December 2016, the very worst was confirmed when multiple affairs came to light. I desperately wanted my marriage to work. I was blindsided by his decision to walk away. Over the following three months, I sank into utter despair and bitterness. I was consumed with anger, a desire for revenge, hopelessness and grief. I could barely care for my daughters. I carried the banner BROKEN and BITTER. And then one day God stepped in and rescued me from the pit.
God set me free in the most unexpected way: forgiveness. He called me to forgive my husband. It felt completely impossible, but He equipped me and led the way, reminding me of the great forgiveness I had received from His Son, Jesus. Nothing in my circumstances changed that day—my marriage was still broken, I was still in the midst of an unwanted divorce, I was still full of grief and pain, but I changed that day. The bitterness was uprooted from my heart, and God began to rescue and heal me in ways that I can only describe as extravagant.
God has RESTORED HOME. My home is now found in Him. I have found Him to be my Husband, perfect in faithfulness. He cares for my needs. He loves me without reservation and without end. His love is steadfast. He is a Good and Faithful Father to my children. He will never (ever, ever) forsake me. He has been enough. And I know He is enough for you, too.
My heart is with you today. I hope you feel loved and safe here at Restored Home. I hope you find hope and healing here. I hope you know you have a seat at the table. I pray you see the Church striving to love and serve you well as you walk this broken path. You are so valuable, and I’m so glad you’re here.
Brighter days are ahead,
Rachel